How to like your family

Without compromising your ability to like yourself

Photo by Sandy Millar on Unsplash

I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that not being the subject of childhood abuse, neglect, or abandonment is not a shoo-in for perfect relationships with family. Even loving the individual members of your family and worrying about their well-being does not mean that you will enjoy their company all the time.

I’ve learned a little something about bad blood in the family. And now that we’re in the midst of the holiday season, my lessons are being put to the test yet again.

So as a refresher course for me, and maybe a source of good advice for you, here are some of the tips I’ve learned that will (hopefully) see us all though to the new year unscathed.

Don’t take on responsibilities out of guilt, or ‘duty’

Just because you have a skill or an interest that your family can get use out of, that doesn’t mean you are obligated to make that skill available to them at all times. Doing nice things for you family members can be a nice way to build your bond and show your affection.

But if it’s not coming from a place of love, and you’re grinding your teeth the whole time and building up resentment, it’s best for you and your family to draw a line.